What Brings You to Couples Therapy
You love each other.
You’re pretty sure you’re “in love” with each other.
But something has shifted.
The distance between you has grown longer than the last good memory you shared together.
You’re either fighting constantly or not talking at all.
Finances. Infidelity. A loneliness you didn’t expect to feel inside your own marriage. The sense that you’re no longer attracted to each other, or that you’re no longer attractive to each other.
Kids complicate things.
Families of origin complicate things.
Different belief systems, different ways of seeing the world, and different internal wiring all land inside the same relationship.
What’s Buried Isn’t Dead
Somewhere underneath all of it, you still want each other back.
The love is still there. Just buried under everything the two of you have been managing.
What You’re Looking For
If both of you are sitting in a counseling room, that tells me something.
It tells me you want this to work.
You’re not looking for a diagnosis or a verdict.
You’re looking for that feeling again. The one that made the two of you choose each other in the first place.
You Want Each Other Back
I think about it like a path that divides at some point. Instead of staying on the same path together, you went in different directions.
That wanting is exactly where we start.
Learning to Love as a Verb
Couples therapy provides a dedicated time to focus on improving your relationship.
We work together using Symbis and Gottman methods to recognize patterns of behavior that need adjusting.
We work on improving your communication patterns.
We explore how to love as a verb, not just to be “in love” as a noun.
We identify what’s gotten in the way between you.
And we start working through it together.
Where This Takes You
Not perfection, but progress.
Progress with a growing understanding of how to love one another in a way that brings you closer instead of farther apart.
You’ll leave with tools you can use outside the session: in the car, at dinner, in the middle of a hard conversation.
Stop Settling for Where You Are
You don’t have to stay in a loveless marriage.
Asking for help is the first step toward a better future.
That step is available to you right here.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation so the two of you can decide whether my approach is a good fit for your relationship.
Call me today at (913) 303-1819.